Why not be discreet about it and say nothing? Why bring it to my attention by text? It’s thoughtless at best, cruel at worst.

Dear Miss Manners: When sharing stories, anecdotes or facts in conversation, I usually cite my source. For example, I might say, “I recently read an op-ed in (newspaper) by (author) where they said …”

He answered, “I’m across the street from your building.” I replied, “I didn’t know you were in town.” He answered, “I’m here for Caroline’s wedding” (his daughter). I was a bit taken aback, as I knew nothing about it,